Bachelor to
Boyfriend
Boyfriend
Dating will be different this time.
Dating will be different this time.
Just imagine:
Being confident asking any woman out, regardless of how she'll respond.
Loving the life you live.
The thing you are most embarrassed about turning out to be a wonderful asset.
Dreaming bigger than you ever thought possible.
Rejection is no big deal.
Going after what you want and keeping the momentum going until you get it.
Being able to handle any emotion without needing to distract from it.
Dating feels easy.
Sex is fun.
You no longer worry about being alone.
I was nervous a lot of the time. I knew something was wrong about how I approached relationships, but didn't know what it was. I wanted to feel more secure with myself.
I'm a confident person otherwise, but in dating I would fake it. I never really felt confident. It was like I was split in two- the fake person on the outside and the person who was constantly worried on the inside.
Now I have zero of these issues.
Now when I am with someone I am not constantly worried about losing her.
Our work together helped me be more confident, authentic and present.
Before I was always strategizing, directing my every move when I was around women.
Now I am just in the experience, alive with another human.
I have so much more trust in myself and women than before. I'm not constantly second guessing myself.
The things I learned I can now take with me into the future. I now have a blueprint for navigating whatever issue there is- whether that's in a long term relationship or on a first date.
I don't think I ever would have figured this stuff out without Erika.
She had such an ability to make me feel comfortable, which was so important. The things I shared with her I would probably feel embarrassed to talk about with someone else. She was able to give me the nudge I needed in a way no one else ever could.
It's been over a year now and the things that we did in our sessions have had such an impact on me. I've shifted my mindset so much.
The things I learned with her have had an effect on my whole life. It's allowed me to be more myself in everything I do- with my family, with my friends, at work. It's not just in intimate relationships.
Your brain was not designed for modern dating.
There's a reason why every rejection feels like you're going to die, and it's not because there is something wrong with you. The very things your brain wants you to do (stay safe! don't put in any effort! seek immediate pleasure!) are the opposite of what creates success in love.
You can cultivate confidence and ease in less time than you think. You just need tools like self awareness, emotional regulation, and the ability to coach yourself on the spot in order to show up in a different way.
Let's retrain your brain.
What is included in Bachelor to Boyfriend?
Weekly coaching sessions with Erika.
Support to help you move past your biggest blocks.
All the Materials. Forever.
(Yes, really.)
Low risk of failure. You can always come back to the videos and worksheets if you need them.
Low pressure. You'll make great progress, but don't have to figure it all out in 12 weeks.
No FOMO. You'll have access to all new materials created for Bachelor to Boyfriend in the future.
“It doesn’t matter what you say or do—it matters what you’re thinking when you say or do it.”
The truth is, the exact things you say and do around a woman aren't nearly as important as you think. This is because what you do on the outside doesn’t matter if you have a crappy story about yourself on the inside.
Your best clothes, the perfect pick up line, and all the dating advice in the world can’t make up for a poorly managed mind. This program teaches you the skills of self awareness, emotional regulation, and thoughtwork so you can coach yourself on the spot when you need it most.
I wasn't feeling satisfied with my life, and I didn't really understand why or where to start to feel better.
Erika helped me find a way to think more positively and productively, while challenging me to confront my blocks.
You're a great fit if...
You're not quite ready if...
Bachelor to Boyfriend
One-on-One
This is about so much more than getting a girlfriend or being good in bed.
You take massive action towards the relationship you want, rather than passively hoping it will happen.
You are free from a fear of rejection. You know you can handle it.
You stop over-thinking and over-analyzing every interaction with a woman.
You learn to manage your mind so you can work with, rather than against yourself.
You show yourself that you are capable of more than you thought possible.
You have more fun and better connections with co-workers, friends, and family.
You waste less time on women who aren’t right for you and habits that distract you.
You have greater acceptance and compassion for yourself. You can feel big feelings without getting stuck in them.
You don't worry your peers are moving forward in their lives while yours stays the same.
You know that you are worthy of love and pleasure, no matter how long you’ve believed otherwise.
COMMON QUESTIONS
The tools I use in my coaching are powerful and transformative. If you commit yourself to this work, show up fully to our sessions, and complete all homework outside of them, you will blow your own mind with what you can achieve.
Fear and rejection are normal human emotions. You’ll learn how to handle any emotion without it consuming you or needing to distract from it. You are stronger than you know.
The tools and concepts I teach will improve every area of your life. There will never be a more “convenient” or “better” time than now. The sooner you invest in yourself, the longer you will reap the benefits of a more confident, more resilient you. I run this program only 2-3 times a year. Be sure to sign up to join the waitlist to be notified when doors open.
My typical client is male, between 25-55 years old, and straight. All the videos are geared toward this audience. That said, if you are another gender, are outside of this age range, or have a different sexual orientation, I'm here for you! I am affirming of a all ages, body types, and orientations, which you'll experience in our sessions.
YES! It is important you get seen by a doctor to rule out any more serious conditions. If you have been told that “it’s all in your head” or that your anxiety or psychology are playing a role, this is where coaching can help in a big way.
Absolutely. The tools I teach work for every experience level. I’ve worked with men across the board.
A hesitant yes. The video lessons are geared for men who are seeking a partnership, so you might not find the examples very relevant. That said, the concepts are universal, and could absolutely benefit your relationship. Our one-on-one coaching sessions would be tailored to you, so being partnered or not doesn't matter. Some men quickly get into a partnership during the program and still find the content and coaching impactful.
Each week you will receive an email with links to the week’s video lessons and workbook pages. You can keep the worksheets private or share with me via email; whatever works for you.
5+ hours per week, on average. 90 minutes a week to complete the video lessons and at home exercises, 45 minutes for our weekly coaching sessions, and 2.5+ hours a week to get out dating, meeting people, and taking action.
Most clients start to feel better after the very first session. By lesson 3, the tools will really start to click and you will look at your mind and the world in a new way.
I typically offer this program 2-3 times a year, starting in February, late August, and if I'm running a summer round, late May/early June.
No. All sessions are conducted live via Zoom online, but not in person.
Yes. Our work together confidential. I will never share any identifying details about you. If we were to run into each other in person, I would pretend I did not know you, unless you approached me first.
One-on-one is currently one payment of $2950.
It’s not cheap, and that’s by design. Making an investment in yourself is the best kind you can make because it continues to pay off throughout your life. That said, I do my best to keep my program affordable, given the personalized level of support. The men who get the most from this program don’t just pay and expect magic to happen; they show up week after week. It’s the difference between paying a little for a gym membership you never use and investing more in a personal trainer so you’ll actually get results.
Here are a few questions that may help you decide what’s best for you: How might my life be different ten years from now if I figure this stuff out now? How might my life be the same in ten years if I don't? What else would I be doing with $__? If I used the $___ in that way and still never figured out my dating/sex life, would I like the result? If I really wanted to sign up for this program, how could I make it work?
No, I do not. The clients who sign up for Bachelor to Boyfriend are all in from the beginning. Sometimes it means saving up for a while or shifting funds in order to make it work. That said, don't go into debt in order to pay for this program. The added pressure won't serve you. Instead, you can check out my free resources by listening to my podcast or downloading my free workbook.
Still not sure?
I totally get it. I thought for the longest time that coaching was silly and unnecessary— and one of my best friends has been a successful career coach for years!
Before I tried coaching, I had all kinds of thoughts like:
“I can do it on my own.”
“There are YouTube videos for this.”
“My problem is unique. She won’t understand.”
If any of these sound like your mind right now, it makes sense. Your brain is just trying to keep you safe and comfortable.
But safe and comfortable do not lead to growth.
And growth is what is necessary to take you from the man you are today to the man you are becoming.
The Best Dating Coach
For Men With Little-to-No Experience
There is a place for you at the table.